“Persecution should not be in the image of a woman”
C.G.Thomas
Social media has done it yet again! I’ve watched a situation brew from a small post by a well-known reality television character. Her words were very blunt with no chaser and in all honesty, very true. Basically she stated “You have to be the thing you desire from others.” This sparked a nerve with many women because it called into question some of the things women are often quoted as needing from a partner. Let me put a little more color into this… There are several platforms riddled with women stating the following:
I will not date a man that earns less than $100k yearly,
I will only date men that can take me on extravagant dates,
I refuse to split the bills with any man. He must be able to provide for me with his income alone,
He must be in good shape, vulnerable, and accepting of my baggage and,
His member must be HUGE with stamina to boot
I’m sure there are a few more affirmations that I may have missed but I’m sure you get the gist of it. To some, these demands seem pretty reasonable after all who doesn’t want a fit partner that earns a more than average living that we can talk about anything with and is very accepting of my bullshit. Additionally, the cherry on top is that he can also snatch my soul on demand. Sounds good right?
Question… Is this type of man out there? Are you able to meet the demands of a man that has all of the aforementioned qualities? Have you determined what it would take to snag such a man? Lastly, are you the type of woman that a man with those qualities would even desire? Don’t shoot the messenger ladies, these are valid questions and concerns that should be considered when making such demands.
Let’s be realistic about some of this…
He must earn six figures
Ok, this is not an unreasonable request if you earn six figures however, is it a realistic one? The latest statistics note the extreme income inequality among the races with Asian Americans earning the highest median income and African Americans being almost last, beating out one ethnic group, Native Americans (American Community Survey U.S. Census 2019). The most recent Bureau of Labor Statistics newsletter released July 16, 2021 ranked the median income of black workers to be $41,548 or $799 weekly. This is a far cry from the six figures most women want. Let me give you a number to be exact $58,452, short of $100k. Let that sink in.
Those extravagant dates
Ummm, based on the above numbers I would say that probably won’t be happening too often. Yahoo Finance states the average cost of a date is $102.32 and consists of a bottle of wine, dinner and two movie tickets. Sis, it isn’t looking too good. We have eliminated two of your “must haves”.
I will not go 50/50 on any bill
Ok y’all are probably mad at me right now but I don’t care. Let’s talk about this debt thing… Can you tell me the average debt load of the American household? First let’s define what is considered household debt; it is defined as all liabilities of households that require payments of interest or principal by a household to creditors. Primarily mortgage loans, and consumer credit and other accounts payable (OECD Data).
Can you answer the question? Take a guess… I’m sure you are stuck so here we go. According to a recent study the average American household carries around $145k in debt as of the 1st quarter 2021. Wait, what? I don’t know about you but it is looking pretty bleak especially since your dude earns less than $50k yearly. That 50/50 sounds pretty good right now doesn’t it.
He must be Fit and vulnerable and accepting of me and all my issues
I thought you all would have had enough however I’m going to keep beating your back in until you realize you need to make a change… Thank me later.
Ladies it is ok to want a fit man however are you in shape? According to a study completed by Healthline in 2020 59.6% of Black women aged 20-34 are overweight and 67.7% aged 35-44 also fall into this category. Bestie… we are not meeting our own demands.
Ok, if you are shy stop reading now because we need to get down to the gritty topic of penis size. We all want a Mandingo sized penis to be attached to some big wonderful however, most of you all (yep I said you, not me) are working with the average five and three-quarter length wiener. Hun, I’m so sorry to squash your dreams.
Ladies, we must change the unrealistic demands we are placing on our fine brothers. I’ve always said some things don’t matter if you have a willing partner. If he does not make six figures why not sit down and figure out how you can prosper together. A self-made man is always a good thing but it is not a realistic thing because we all have something that we need to fine tune. Perfection is in the mind of the beholder. When you meet someone and they do it for you would you really walk away if you can’t check off all the boxes?
IJS, give a brother a chance, you might be missing out on the person that was tailored made for you.
Sugar said what she said…
Be blessed!
