“Sexual needs change as you mature and so should your approach to sex”
C.G. Thomas
Ask any couple that has been together for a few years and they will likely tell you that their partner is occasionally boring in bed. Maybe they’re not into sex as much as you are, or they just don’t seem to know what turns you on. If this sounds like your situation, then don’t worry- you’re not alone! In this blog post, we’re going to explore a few ways to spice up your bedroom game..
What does my partner like?
Have you ever just observed your partner? I mean really paid attention to how they move freely about, how they respond to your touch, or something you may have said? Do you know what makes your partner happy? Do you even know when they are in the mood? If your answer to any one of these questions is no, you have some work to do.
One would assume that after being with someone for years that it would be easy to know their likes and dislikes. That may apply to food or cars but not when it comes to intimacy. Your individual sexual needs change as you mature and so should your approach to sex. Now the best way to find out what your partner needs is to have a conversation; however we know that is not always easy so how about you just spend a day observing. Your partner will appreciate the attention and you will gain some insight into what makes them tick.
Foreplay all day
If you are one of the many that believe foreplay starts right before the act then shame on you; ladies, you are not exempt. The games should begin at the start of your day and it should be fun. You may not have time for a quickie before work but you can give a show while you get dressed instead of changing with the door closed. You can also send provocative messages and or pics all day, keeping your partner primed and very ready for you. Take it a step further and send a playful video of while showering or taking a bubbly soak. Whatever you decide, make sure it is sensual and fun.
Try something new
Try a new place or setting. The bed should not be the only place that you and your partner get it in. Sometimes the spontaneity of sex in forbidden places is just what a stale relationship needs. Some may not agree but toys and or props can also be a fire starter. Toys have evolved in so many ways, yes I am an advocate for toys. They can assist in giving you full autonomy in learning your body because it is easier to verbalize what you need if you know what you like. Back to the evolution of toys, ages ago everything was tethered to a string and required privacy for use. The new age of toys are wireless and can be used long distance, and are not confined to being used behind closed doors.
Trust me there is extreme excitement at the thought of sitting at a restaurant with my person while he wields the power to the wireless remote control bullet that I am wearing.
In the end, it’s all about being open to new ideas and trying them out. If you have a partner who is willing to experiment with you, then by all means go for it! The more sex we like (or think we enjoy) will lead to better relationships and greater happiness in life.
I hope you’ve enjoyed your view inside the mind of Sugar Clark!
