“You see what you think”
C.G. Thomas
I’m slowly scrolling through my photos from a recent shoot…. I’m not sure how I feel about what I see, I do know it’s falling somewhere between satisfaction and disappointment.
We live in a body conscious society where everyone has an opinion about the ideal image, at least as it relates to women (that’s an entirely different conversation). Some say being voluptuous is a cardinal sin and others say being too thin is not healthy either. Each side leaves the other bloody and uncertain of what is right. In my opinion the correct answer falls somewhere in between, but let’s circle back to my initial thought about my photo shoot, I see the truth in both arguments….
I am a voluptuous woman and hips, thighs, and an ample bottom are a family gift and curse. Some would look at me and say, ”you need to lose weight”, I agree. Others would say “you are perfect just the way you are”, I agree with that statement too. How does one navigate in a society where everyone’s opinions are front and center? Even more so why do we get so hurt at the mention of weight? Let’s explore some of the challenges and how I tune out the hecklers and embrace those that mean me well…
You see what you think
Mindset matters. Your mental state has the ability to change the way you see everything. There is a ;scripture that reads “So a man thinks, so is he”, this is such a true passage. There was a point in my life where I would allow what I saw in the mirror to dictate my day; surrendering to all the negative things I was told and heard. I realized how my negative view of myself was hindering the ability to advance in my profession as well as hinder my ability to be open to love. A change of thinking is what some of you need to do in order to see what those who care for you see.
Truth over everything
I am thicker than a snicker and I don’t need anyone to tell me that. I know the current state of my health and have a plan in place to tackle the things that are keeping me from meeting my weightloss goals. This is my truth, what is yours? You will never progress if you are always butt hurt at what others think or say about you. It is also not body shaming if someone expresses the desire for you to lose weight…. It’s the truth. Stop receiving the offense and accept the objective feedback.
Listen, every coin has two sides, one will see beauty and others will see ugliness.. I say I have yet to meet an unfu*kable woman, you are someone’s cup of tea. The question is, what do you see and can you accept the truth about what you see? Are you willing to do the work, mental, physical, and emotional to overcome the obstacles that may be hindering your viewpoint? The flip of the coin is within your span of control, which side have you chosen.
I hope you’ve enjoyed your view inside the mind of Sugar Clark!
Be Blessed!
